Find your au pair
without the agency fees
Browse verified au pair profiles from across Europe and message candidates directly. No middlemen, no €1,500 agency bill. Membership from €9.99/month.
Free to browse · Membership unlocks messaging · No agency fees · Takes 2 minutes
What you get
Browse all profiles
See every au pair's photos, bio, languages, experience, and references for free. No blurred profiles.
Direct messaging with a membership
Once you choose a plan, message any au pair directly. No per-message fees, no agency forwarding your emails three days later.
Built-in contracts
Use our ready-made au pair contract template. Covers hours, pocket money, house rules, and notice period — legally sound across the EU.
How much you save
The typical agency charges families €1,000–€3,000 per placement. Here's what it costs on DearAuPair:
Traditional agency
€1,500
- ❌ Weeks of waiting for matches
- ❌ Agency picks for you
- ❌ No direct messaging
- ❌ Locked into their schedule
DearAuPair
€0
Browse free · Membership from €9.99/month
- ✅ Browse all profiles instantly
- ✅ Unlimited messaging with a plan
- ✅ Built-in contract templates
- ✅ Cancel anytime, no lock-in
How it works
Create your family profile (2 minutes)
Tell au pairs about your family, kids, location, and what you're looking for. Add a photo of your home.
Browse au pair profiles
Filter by nationality, language, experience, and availability. Watch video intros. Read references.
Message your favourites
Send a message directly — no agency in the middle. Get to know each other before committing to anything.
Sign a contract and welcome your au pair
Use our built-in contract template. Agree on hours, pocket money, and house rules. Your au pair can arrive in as little as 2-3 weeks.
Questions families ask
How much does an au pair actually cost?
Pocket money is typically €280–400/month depending on the country. You also provide a private room, meals, and usually contribute ~€50/month toward a language course. Total real cost: about €450–550/month — roughly a quarter of a full-time nanny.
Do I need to go through an agency?
No. If your au pair is an EU citizen going to another EU country, there is no legal requirement for an agency. DearAuPair lets you find, vet, and match directly — saving you €1,000–3,000 in agency fees.
How much does messaging au pairs cost?
Browsing au pair profiles is free — see photos, bios, languages, experience, and references with no signup. To message au pairs directly, pick a membership: €9.99 for 1 month, €19.99 for 3 months (€6.66/mo), or €29.99 for 6 months (€4.99/mo). One-time payment, no auto-renewal.
How quickly can I find an au pair?
Most families match within 2-4 weeks. Some find their au pair in days. It depends on your location, timing, and how specific your requirements are. With a 1-month membership you'll typically start 3-5 conversations and shortlist candidates within the first week.
Is it safe?
Every user verifies their email. Au pair profiles include references, video intros, and verified experience. You can block and report anyone suspicious, and all conversations stay on the platform so there's a record if anything goes wrong.
Ready to find your au pair?
Browse for free · Membership from €9.99/month · No agency fees